Book Review: Asher Diamond is Definitely Gay by Andrew Extein
Sometimes you stumble across a book that feels so incredibly relatable, it’s as if the author has captured not just a story, but a slice of your own experience. That was my immediate reaction when I picked up Asher Diamond is Definitely Gay by Andrew Extein. Set in the sun-soaked chaos of Fort Lauderdale in 2002, this YA novel vibrantly illustrates the extremes of teenage identity with a blend of humor and heart that is all too familiar.
The story centers around 17-year-old Asher, who is arguably the most unlikely hero you could find. Cheeto stains and all, his journey begins with a brawl in the locker room, but rather than letting it get the best of him, he hatches a deranged plan to come out as gay to get his bullying nemesis, Luke, expelled. What unfolds is an outrageous, laugh-out-loud adventure that delves deep into the intricacies of adolescent friendship, identity, and the often convoluted paths we take to find ourselves.
There’s something beautifully chaotic about Asher’s world. The characters around him—from the ridiculous, Austin Powers-quoting Robbie, Asher’s best friend, to the intoxicating Ethan, who is as genuine as he is trendy—each contribute a layer of complexity to the narrative. Asher finds himself navigating new social circles, attending wild parties, and engaging in the soul-gushing experiences that seem to define teen life. Yet Extein doesn’t sugarcoat the gritty side of growing up; the stakes are real, and the laughter is often laced with an aching honesty.
Extein’s writing style is candid and refreshing. His humor flourishes amidst the awkwardness of teenage interactions, and his ability to weave pop culture references into existential musings is supercharged with nostalgia. The pacing keeps you on your toes—one moment, you’re laughing over a cringe-inducing moment, and the next, you’re catching your breath at a sobering realization about identity and authenticity. It’s a rollercoaster that mirrors the confusion and intensity of high school life, making it impossible to put down.
One standout moment for me was when Asher reflects on the vulnerabilities shared during a simple night swim. Lines blur and emotions swell, and suddenly you’re reminded just how fragile relationships are during these formative years. Extein’s ability to encapsulate such poignancy in the midst of humor struck a chord. “Life’s a hot mess, but it’s our hot mess,” Asher muses, a reminder that our identities often come wrapped in complexities that are just waiting to be acknowledged and celebrated.
Asher Diamond is Definitely Gay is a love letter to anyone who’s ever felt out of place in their own skin, and it resonates on so many levels. If you cherish stories that balance dark comedy with raw emotional truth, or if you’ve ever navigated the dramatic waters of adolescence, this book is for you. It’s an unapologetic exploration of what it means to belong in a world that often feels chaotic and cruel, yet beautiful in its messiness.
By the end, I was left reflecting on my own teenage years, filled with friends, drama, and the quest for self-discovery. Andrew Extein’s poignant debut is sure to strike a chord with readers of all ages, offering not just entertainment but a deeper understanding of the unique struggles we face while growing up. I absolutely recommend this novel for anyone looking for a voice that’s warm, witty, and wonderfully real.